I read an affair recovery forum the other day where a woman was asking for advice about what gift she should buy for her unfaithful husband for Christmas. Their relationship is not yet mended. She was uninspired to buy anything, but she didn’t want to make the kids wonder why she didn’t buy their dad a gift. Lots of people commented with bland suggestions. Lots of people commented with snarky suggestions. I wonder what she’ll end up buying? “What does my spouse want for Christmas?” is a question no unfaithful spouse should ever need to ask. The list is very […]

It’s the holiday season and you’re in the middle of a personal relationship crisis. How are you going to make it through the season? It will be difficult. The holidays are a high stress, high-energy time of year and that’s the last thing you need right now. Your pain is real. The stress of the season is real. I wish I could snap my fingers and solve it all for you, but let me at least give you three strategies that will help you navigate your way through the season. (Be sure to read to the end for some extra […]

One of the biggest complaints that we hear over and over again is that the unfaithful spouse refuses to talk about the affair or answer any questions about it. It makes sense. No one wants to talk about their mistakes. No one wants to rehearse the details of their bad choices. But if you are the unfaithful spouse, please understand how important it is for you and your spouse to engage in these difficult conversations about the affair. Your spouse has just received a fatal blow. She was expecting loyalty, security, and exclusivity in your marriage. To receive the news […]

Have you ever had the experience of dining at a new restaurant and being completely underwhelmed? Maybe a friend told you how great the food and atmosphere was. She went on and on about the entrees and the exceptional service. Your hopes were really high and you couldn’t wait to order the chocolate mocha mousse she raved about. But the night you visited, you were seated in a dark little corner, the server got your order wrong, your entree was overcooked, and they had just run out of chocolate mocha mousse! You were NOT happy! You had extremely high expectations […]