Have you taken a look backward lately? If you’re like me, you hardly ever look behind you at the past. You’re much more focused on how much ground you still have to cover and how fast you can get there–no matter the situation. But I think it can be really helpful to take inventory of your successes sometimes, especially when it comes to affair recovery. It can be so daunting to look at the future and wonder if you will ever make it to having the relationship that you want to have. If you take a few minutes to look […]

It’s the holiday season and you’re in the middle of a personal relationship crisis. How are you going to make it through the season? It will be difficult. The holidays are a high stress, high-energy time of year and that’s the last thing you need right now. Your pain is real. The stress of the season is real. I wish I could snap my fingers and solve it all for you, but let me at least give you three strategies that will help you navigate your way through the season. (Be sure to read to the end for some extra […]

Do you think your wife is pretty? Do you tell her you think she is? Does your husband provide well for your family? Do you tell him how much you appreciate all of his hard work to provide? It’s so easy to neglect saying the kind things you’re thinking about your spouse. Honestly, it’s easy to forget to think nice things about your spouse after a while. Not because you’re angry with them, but simply because they can become a part of the scenery. You see them, but you don’t see them. Or, they can become like part of the […]

Leisure–what’s that? Hobbies–who has time? Fun–maybe we can plan a week for it this summer? As a functioning member of the world’s population in 2017, there is an extremely high percentage that you feel overwhelmed and under fulfilled with your life. When that happens, it has a huge effect on your marriage and you are very likely to attribute the flaws in your life to your marriage. Take Deanna and Greg, for example. After work, Deanna picks the kids up from the sitter. She takes one to piano lessons and the other to soccer practice. When both activities are over […]

“I had the opportunity and the information and I failed to make use of it. I don’t know what an inquest or a court of law would say, but I stand condemned in the court of my own conscience to be guilty of not preventing the Columbia disaster… The bottom line is that I failed to understand what I was being told; I failed to stand up and be counted. Therefore look no further; I am guilty of allowing the Columbia to crash.” (N. Wayne Hale Jr., Launch Integration Manager) One of the most admirable qualities of creditable people is […]

The internet has provided a whole new world of opportunities when it comes to advances in knowledge, communication, and productivity. I can still remember sitting in my 9th grade homeroom and hearing about something called “The Information Superhighway.” I had no idea back then how pervasive this “Superhighway” would soon become and what an integral part it would play in our everyday lives. A large part of our lives are lived online and most of our connections, networking, relationships, and communications happen via email, texting, or social media. The internet has also provided a whole new world of opportunities when […]

How could I have done something so stupid? What was I thinking? What kind of man would betray the one woman he committed himself to for the rest of his life? Why did I risk everything I valued for something so fleeting and meaningless as an affair? Why did I betray my morals and my beliefs? Why was I so callous and selfish? How could I be capable of such an evil act and of inflicting such a devastating wound on someone I love? What kind of a monster am I? Why did he cheat on me? Was something missing […]

Some people are in happy marriages. Some people are in unhappy marriages. What makes the difference? It’s partly the things they do for each other, but it’s just as much the things they don’t do. They don’t keep score. Marriage involves two imperfect human beings living together and sharing their lives together. One of them is bound to let the other one down sometimes. One of them is bound to tick the other one off. Both of them inevitably have habits the other person finds annoying. That’s just the way it is. People have flaws. You can choose to overlook […]